I've tweeted today about me going to the emergency room to have something done about my IUD. I've got to schedule a visit to have it removed. I've learned that the severe bleeding and cramping is normal for up to 6 weeks. I'm already exhausted from bleeding this long, and I'm choosing not to put up with any longer. When I had it put in, I was told a week, maybe 2 tops and the pain and bleeding would subside. I can't deal with this crap another month. But anyways, this isn't about me.
My grandmother has been in the nursing home for 20 days evaluation. She's not been able to go home due to her dementia/Alzheimer's. Last week she came down with pneumonia. Yesterday she was placed on oxygen and had a conversation with my aunt. She told her she wasn't going to live much longer. My Granny is a strong-willed person and was always a tough old lady. :) But, she doesn't have the will to live anymore. They say elderly people just know when it's time. I'm not sure if she'll be here much longer.
She's now in the hospital. She didn't recognize me or my husband last week, and she didn't really know who my mom was this evening. My aunt works in a nursing home and sees death all the time, and she told me my grandma has lost the life in her eyes.
I'm really upset and worried right now. This is where I vent my real feelings and wanted to voice my pain here. My grandmother raised me when I was a little girl. Her home was my favorite place to be. As the years have gone by, my grandpa and uncle passed away, but she's still hung around, healthy and active. Over the past year, she has really gone downhill. The doctor won't release her to go home in her state.
In the past, she's told my mom and aunt that if she ever has to go into a home, she won't make it. She won't eat. Since breaking her hip last month, she's lost 10 pounds. She's less than 100 lbs at the moment. I don't know if the hospital will keep her tonight or send her back to the home. I'm going to go visit her tomorrow, and want to the boy's to see her. I don't know if that's a good idea though. But, she helped me with them when I was in school, and like any grandparent, adores the kids. What should I do?
My Grandmother is Slipping Away
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Oh, hon, I'm so sorry. That broke my heart about there being no life in her eyes.
I think that if in your heart you want to take the boys, you should take them. Even if she won't recognize you/them in my heart I think it would be a nice thing to do for you.
She sounds like such an amazing woman. Sending you {{hugs}}
ps-so sorry about your IUD! I don't blame you at all for wanting it out, poor thing!
I'm so sorry about your grandma.
Sending you hugs and prayers.
Take the boys, but warn them ahead of time that G'ma may not remember them. Take a camera with you, too, and try to get a photo of all of you together. It will mean so much to you, and to your kids, later.
Good luck!
I've already warned my boys about their granny. They do want to see her, and I think they should. It may her last time to see them, whether or not she recognizes them or not.
Thanks for the prayers, my granny needs them right now. She is breathing better this morning, but the pneumonia is now in both lungs. My aunt stayed with her last night, and I'm heading up this morning.
I am so sorry for you. You never can count her out though. My hubby's grandmother just died after a 3 year strugle with dementia/Alzheimers. We had a lot of close calls like this and some how she always pulled out of it untill the end. I will pray for you and your family.
I am so sorry about your grandma. I am in a similar situation with my father. He's very ill, he started going into kidney failure about two months ago and had to start emergency dialysis. The dialysis is really too much for him and he doesn't want to continue with it. I can also tell that it is all becoming too much for him to take and he has started to lose his will. He turns 89 on Thanksgiving Day and we're trying to keep him focused on that. He doesn't have dementia or anything like that, so it is a little easier to deal with since he knows what he will be leaving behind.
It's not any easier for me to lose my dad though. So, I really know what you are going through. I am taking my kids (ages 2 & 4) to see him as much as possible because I know that the time they have with him is very limited. At this point, every second is a treasured second.
You will be in my thoughts and prayers.
First, I hope you feel better soon. I'm sorry you've had rotten luck with the IUD.
Second, I will be praying for you and your family. I still remember clearly when i lost my grandma. What a painful time. I hope she does not suffer. My thoughts are with you!
Oh, Kim! Rough month, huh? I'll be praying for you. I just lost my grandma recently, so I feel for you and will be thinking of you. I had a fantastic experience with my IUD and I feel really bad that you've had such a crappy time with yours. One of my friends had the same problem too and got hers removed. Take it easy and try and get some rest!
My father died last year and Ive found that both myself and my children remember those last times the most.I would take the kids and try to make it a memorable visit/visits and just let her know you care.She may be confused but love is something you cant hide or ignore and she will know she is loved.
Best wishes to you all.
You are in my thoughts and prayers and I am so sorry for all the pain you are going through both physical and emotional.
JMHO on taking your kids to see her. I took my kids and they were very small when their great grandpa was in the hospital and in the same situation. I have never regretted it.
I'm really sorry. It's so sad when Grandparents give up. My hubby's Grandmother died 2 years ago in Dec & she did the same thing. She was ready to go. I'm just glad that she got to meet my daughter.
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